Don't Worry...BE Happy!

     Over the years, although this was NOT, always, so, I have learned to be happy, all on my own. Many, years ago, as do a great, majority of us, I sought 'happiness' in all the wrong places, and, through all the wrong people; not realizing that all I needed to do was look deep inside of myself, for it was there...all the time. Kinda like 'Dorothy', in the Wizard of Oz, after awakening from her 'dream-state' and coming to the realization that, 'There's NO place like home', and, that her happiness was within her, all along, I had my own personal-epiphany which has changed my life. When we seek our fulfillment from outside of ourselves, 'banking on' others to 'make' us happy, well...this is the wrong approach, to say the least; for others, in their 'imperfection', as none of us are perfect, will, surely, disappoint us. If we choose to place the onus of responsibility on others, with expectations that they will bring us happiness, pleasure, joy and fulfillment, we are not being fair to us or them. When we set our standards of 'expected'-value on the relationships we have with other people, imagining that we will garner all the satisfaction we require, through these connections, rather than realizing that these 'demands' only put pressure on the relationship(s) and will, inevitably bring about disappointment, we will never find true-happiness. Evolving into a more 'elevated' and 'complete' person is not a thing that can be attained without awareness and introspection, and, the accepting of the truth, which is that our ability to be happy is not reliant on others, but only enhanced through our 'connections' to and with them. Once we can figure this out, our friendships, kinship, amorous-associations, and/or, general-interchanges, with others, become more gratifying, satisfying and a heck of a lot, 'easier'. Being happy is about choosing to be so, with this being something that we can do, all on our own. Understanding that we cannot expect others to do anything more than contribute to this state- of- being is the BEST we can do for ourselves and them. Just Sayin'...